We do our best to help our children through tough times. When they come home from school with a hint of sadness, we want to make everything all better, however as time goes on it becomes more frequent a character bandaid doesn’t fix it.
“My friend at school didn’t want to play with me. They said we are not friends”
“Someone laughed when I fell down”
My daughter is only 4 and as hard as these conversations are, I know more difficult ones are coming. We talk a lot about our feelings, the feelings of others, and even practice some words/phrases to say.
“That hurt my feelings”
“Would you like to play with me?”
“Can we work on this together?”
Sometimes, however I don’t know what to say. I can tell no matter what I say, the friendship dynamics are so complicated I don’t know how to break it down to a 4 year old. In these times, I find a book. Cordelia has been a go to when talking about people teasing, laughing, and not believing in the talents, beauty, and strength of someone else.
Some days, this book takes extra time, as my daughter has questions.
“Why are the colors not bright mom? See this page when she is flying she is bright, and this page she isn’t.”
“Why did those people be mean to her?”
“Why doesn’t she think she can fly?”
We talk through what is happening in the framework on this beautiful story. “Okay, mom”.
When she is done asking questions, I can see her thinking, and
in every inch of my body hope and pray she is able to use the strength of Cordelia.
Michelle Nelson Schmidt brilliantly tells these stories, to support kids through tough times, and giving parents the tools to talk through hard situations.
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